Think of someone you admire or someone whose accomplishments inspire you. Think of their journey on their way to success. You might imagine them as a hero who achieved their goals single-handedly or a pioneer who battled their way to success on their own. However, it’s almost certain that, on their way to success, those accomplished people mastered the skill of asking for help.
In this social media age, when peak moments and major accomplishments are all we see when we jump online, it’s easy to feel pressure to keep your challenges private. The resulting isolation helps no one! If you experience signs of stress, losing sleep, feeling overwhelmed, or have been unable to make progress on your own, it’s time to reach out to someone for help.
There’s no shame in asking for help. Learn to reframe any negative thoughts that have prevented you from asking for a little help in the past. For instance, turn “I can’t do it on my own” into “I’m being intelligent with my time and resources” because it’s true! Most of all, realize that reaching out to others is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
It’s also important to understand that most people love to lend a helping hand. In fact, asking for a small favor is one of the best ways to build rapport with someone you’ve just met! If you’ve experienced the warm satisfaction that comes from helping a friend in need or felt a swell of pride when you see the end result of a project you pitched in on, you understand the joys of giving your time and energy to those in need. In many cases, you’re not giving your helpers a burden, you’re giving them a gift.
It may be difficult for you in the beginning, but you must remember that asking for help is one of the most proven techniques to achieving success! Whether in your personal life or in a professional setting, asking for help is an invaluable life skill.